The holiday season brings excitement for festive outings, family gatherings, and seasonal activities. For families with a child on the autism spectrum, these events can present unique challenges, but with a few thoughtful strategies, they can become enjoyable and memorable experiences. We spoke with Eileen from The Autism Cafe, who has created holiday routines and traditions tailored to her son Charlie’s needs, to get insights that any family can adapt. Here’s how to plan holiday experiences that bring comfort, joy, and support for children with sensory sensitivities or other needs.
Planning Ahead for Family Outings
Preparing in advance can reduce potential stress and make outings go more smoothly. Eileen’s approach is to familiarize her son with upcoming plans, so he feels less anxious and more prepared. “I show him pictures of the place beforehand, explain what we’re going to be doing, and tell him what will happen afterward,” she explains. This helps him know what to expect.”
For any outing, consider researching the location beforehand. Checking online reviews and looking for sensory-friendly options can help you identify spots with calmer environments, manageable parking, and supportive staff. “We also look for quieter times to visit,” Eileen says. “It makes a huge difference for Charlie when there are fewer people, so he’s not overwhelmed.”
Recommended Sensory-Friendly Holiday Activities
Choosing activities that welcome sensory-sensitive visitors can be key to a successful outing. In her home city of Austin, Eileen has discovered a few local favorites that provide gentle, sensory-friendly experiences. She recommends spots like Holiday & Harvest, which offers an inviting atmosphere and staff who understand sensory needs. “Charlie smashed a pumpkin there as part of a sensory-seeking behavior, so I offered to pay for it, but the person running the place told me not to worry about it. Not only that, but she asked if I wanted her to turn down the music.”
For other families, locations with wide-open spaces, like Christmas tree farms or farms that allow guests to explore at their own pace, can be ideal. Sweet Berry Farm and Elgin’s Christmas Tree Farm are favorites for Eileen’s family. Indoor locations that offer sensory-friendly hours, like Chuck E. Cheese’s Sensory Sensitive Sundays, can also provide a welcoming space free from bright lights and loud noises.
Strategies for Comfort in New Environments
When visiting a new or busy place, bringing a few familiar items can help a child feel grounded. Eileen always carries Charlie’s favorite sensory toys, snacks, a cozy blanket, and his AAC device for communication.
Timing is also a valuable tool for creating a comfortable experience. “We usually avoid going places if we know it will be chaotic,” she notes. Instead, they visit during quieter times to reduce sensory overload. Consider using noise-canceling headphones or planning for short visits, too. Gauge your child’s comfort level and give them a chance to take breaks if needed.
Facing Holiday Challenges
Traveling during the holiday season can be difficult for any family, especially those with a child on the autism spectrum. After a challenging flight experience, Eileen’s family now chooses to celebrate holidays at home, allowing Charlie to enjoy his routine and familiar surroundings. For families who need or want to travel, Eileen advises packing a travel kit with comforting items, planning breaks, and practicing flexibility with plans.
While holidays can be an exciting time, it’s important to remember they don’t have to be elaborate to be meaningful. “We try not to make a big fuss over the holidays,” she adds. Instead, they celebrate at home with close family, accommodating Charlie’s needs by preparing safe food and allowing him to take breaks as needed.
Advice for Other Parents
Eileen encourages other parents of children with ASD to keep expectations realistic and maintain a flexible mindset. To help children prepare, she suggests using visual aids or social stories that explain what the day will look like. For example, if a family event will have a lot of people, create a plan together for finding a quiet space if your child feels overwhelmed. “Surround yourself with people who understand and support your family’s unique challenges,” she advises.
Managing Sensory Overload
Understanding and respecting each child’s limits is essential, especially during busy holiday gatherings. Eileen believes in letting Charlie decide how much he wants to engage in activities. “If that means he spends part of the celebration in another room, that’s okay,” she says. The focus is on creating an environment where Charlie feels safe and understood, embracing the day’s unique moments rather than striving for perfection.
Unique Holiday Traditions
Finally, remember that each family can create its own traditions that bring joy in ways that work best for them. Eileen’s family has developed a tradition of making a Bûche de Noël every Christmas Eve. “While Charlie doesn’t help with the cooking, he sure loves eating it!” she laughs. These cherished moments highlight the joy in their holiday season. Simple, familiar rituals can create lasting memories that feel comfortable for everyone.
In the end, Eileen reminds parents that the holidays are about creating memories and finding joy in your unique family experience. Celebrate the wins, no matter how small, and give yourself grace when things get tough, she encourages.